On “Duality, there’s no such thing”

I remember once when I was 14, I had gotten my ass kicked rather soundly for coming home late from wrestling practice. It occurred at the back door to the house I was living in at the time, my two friends from the team were with me, standing off to the side. I can remember glancing at them from the ground and noting that one of them had pissed his pants… they were both literally incapacitated with … fear? Shock? The overall emotion I carried away from that was empathy… or maybe sympathy… or pity. They did not deserve that, and had no fucking idea what to do.
And immediately on the heels of that was the relief that one of them had pissed his pants, because it would likely have gotten spread all around at school otherwise.
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9 Responses to “On “Duality, there’s no such thing””

  1. redbrook30 Says:

    You know, sometimes I come across little anecdotes of your life in various comments that you leave for people and when I do, I always say to myself “Why he is wasting posting that here, where only a handful of people will see it?” You have led a very interesting life, for better and for worse, and from your life you have so many stories and observations based on your life to share that others would find interesting to read, such as this one. Glad to see you did that here and I hope to see you do it more in the future.

  2. redbrook30 Says:

    As for what happened here, I think it demonstrates how for as much as someone might empathize with another for their crappy situation (or perhaps “pissy situation” would be a better choice of words here) their still might be a small part of our ourselves that looks to somehow benefit from the shortcomings of another.

    Is this wrong? Perhaps it comes more from our competative nature, much like going for the “checkmate” when the opportunity presents itself. Or perhaps, as in this situation, one’s own instinct for self preservation competes with the feelings of empathy that are present. I DO believe these types of feelings and reactions can co-exist at the same time, and it’s just because of our basic human nature that they do.

  3. Cowgirl Says:

    Well, here we are, your two faithfuls again, I see. You finally provided me fodder for argument. Thank you. I disagree that there are not dualities. Here are some definitions for duality. The very fact that there is a definition for the word shows it exists in some form or another (even if it is in the imagination of the holder). However, the definitions show that it exists in a couple of realities also.

    1. something consisting of two parts: a situation or nature that has two states or parts that are complementary or opposed to each other
    2. theory of matter: in microphysics, the theory that both wave and particle theory account for the behavior of matter and energy under different conditions
    3. mathematical symmetry of objects or operations: a mathematical symmetry in which some objects or operations can be interchanged without invalidating a relationship, e.g. the interchange of points and lines in a plane in projective geometry

    Now, Iā€™m sure your title has something to do with the above anecdote from your childhood. It appears it has to do with the conflicting emotions vying for pre-eminence as you lay on the ground. Both emotions existed, creating a duality. However, each was embarrassed for the other by reason of the guilt the one was producing. So, there they are making a lot of noise in your head, tricking you into thinking they were the only two in existence at that moment.

    However, there were some other emotions lying dormant in the shadows of the doorway. All the projecting of empathy upon the bystanders did not take away from that fact, or from them. The person lying on the ground was grieving, probably embarrassed and most likely also angry because he was most in need of empathy—from his father. If that one emotion had existed in his father, all the others would have been unnecessary. You could have denied duality and embraced a multitude of the happiest of childhood emotions.

    But then your life would be an average Joe’s life, with nothing unique to add to a normal Joe’s awareness, or any understanding for the victims of the world. When you pick yourself up off the ground and realize that even though you were victimized you are not a victim, and you march forward with depth of insight and wisdom others do not have, you become the most fortunate human being alive.

  4. way2aware Says:

    1) Indeed, I am no victim.
    2) IFLY. Both.
    that is all

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